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My 13 year-old son consistently neglects his homework and studying. He admits that he is aware of what is required but simply doesn't want to do the work. Over the course of several years, we have tried micro-managing, punishment and rewards but nothing seems to help. He is a very bright child (we have had a full battery of intelligence tests) and generally cooperative and happy. His class participation is great and his teachers say he is a pleasure to have in class. However, he will be lucky to hold a "C" average. I don't know how to help him break his pattern of underachievement.
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My two children 8(boy) and 13(girl) do not get along at all. They get verbally abuse towards each other, time to time they get quite physical as well. My daughter acts like the parent and my son feels he doesn't have to listen to her at all. What should I do?
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We have 13 year old triplets, 2 girls and a boy. My son has generally been a good kid at home and in school through the years. As he is progressing through puberty he has developed an attitude and a lack of respect for my wife and I and his 2 sisters, this is often very disruptive to day to day routines in the home. What I mean by this is talking back, arguing, not behaving properly...... He also has stopped communicating with us. so its difficult for us to help if we dont understand. How can we breakthrough to him ?
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I am the step parent of a 22 year old young lady, we will call Denise. I have known her since she was 1 year old. Her mother and I have been together for 21 years. She has an 18 month old little girl and she is not married. When she got pregnant, she got her own apartment, just next door to her mother and I. The father of the baby is not in the picture. Denise is a hard worker and does not party. I have grown close with her baby. She calls me Grandpa. Because Denise has to work many hours, in order to pay for her rent, her Mother and I are practically raising the baby. Anyway, we think Denise needs to spend more time with the baby and we also need a break. We are thinking about letting her move back in with us. Do you think that would be a good idea. I would charge her rent so that she continues to learn to be a responsible person. And I told her there would be rules. There is just something that scares me about letting that happen. Her mother and I have been doing very well and are happy with our Independence since she has moved out. Thank you.
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My 12 year old daughter overheard me having sex, how do I handle this?
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My twelve year old daughter wants to walk around the mall with her girlfriend who is also twelve. We tried this once - I stayed at the mall and they met me every hour. The friend has a cell phone. How safe do you or others think this is? I want to start giving her a little more freedom, as I have always been a little overprotective. She is an excellent student and an extremely well behaved child. I trust her, but am not sure about the friend. Also she wants to go to the movies with the same friend and two boys. Is this common at their young age?
I am 52 years old, older than most of her friends' Moms. Help.
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My eight-month-old daughter is not yet rolling over or crawling. How can I help her progress? Suggestions for specific exercises are appreciated. Thanks!
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My daughter will be 17 in two months. She is convinced that she is a prisoner in our home that can't do anything that a normal teeager can do. In the last year I have gone from mom to step-mom to no longer accepted as a parental figure at all. Even though I am her step-mom, until now, the term "step" has never been used in our home. We have four children altogether, his, mine, and ours. We have had his since they were 2 and 4 so there has been no purposeful difference in raising them other than outside influences - absent parents etc. Someone has informed my daughter that she can become legally emancipated at 17 without any legal requirements. She is always angry and trying to get negative attention all the while blaming everyone around her for the negativity. We will not allow her to go to anyone's homes if there are no parents home. She is required to carry a "C" average in order to go out or drive. She only has four classes and yet refuses to even do any homework. We have tried to have a very open relationship with her. We found out that she was sexually active and that she had gotten exteemly drunk with some of her friends. So we explained to her that her bad choices will affect our decision making as to what we will allow her to do. She sits in our home screaming at everyone cursing telling us how she hates us and will be gone as soon as she is 17. She doesn't want to be here or at her mother's. She wants to live with her friend and her parents.
We can no longer comunicate with her, when we try to reason with her she starts screaming and cursing again no matter which one of her younger siblings are around. I feel that there is a level of independance that a 17 year old should have but she never gives us no opportunity to offer that to her. Between sneaking her boyfriend in our home, whom she also screams at and belittles, drinking alcohol - which has also been offered to her 14 year old sister to avoid her telling, we are not even aware of how much she may still drink if at all, stealing our vehicles, thinking she was pregnant, the list goes on and on. We have tried to explain to her that this behavior is why we are not comfortable allowing her any leeway. All on deaf ears. I don't know if there is somewhere we can send her, or if we should just let her go. My husband is at a point where is feels completely betrayed and has stated if she leaves in this manner she is not welcome back, I cannot be that way to one of my children even though I feel the same. But as long as she has the option to keep coming back how will she ever learn. The more we offer our hand the more advantage she takes. I do not know what to do, where to go, and if she does leave how legally liable are we still if she make even worse choices.
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My husband and I disagree on discipline. He was raised to believe that spanking is ok, and I don't believe it is. We have a toddler going through a normal bit of defiance, but the problem now rests with us disagreeing on how to handle it. I want to use time-outs and he wants to lightly spank our son. Any advice?
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My three-year-old son refuses to learn. I have tried to teach him letters, numbers and sounds during play, but the instant I start, he leaves. If I say, “Let’s count the cookies before we eat them,” he will walk away. If I spell his name in playdough, he will leave the table. He still enjoys playing with puzzles and reading books. He will be starting JK in September and I’m concerned: Is it too early for me to worry about his lack of interest in anything “educational”?
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