Charlie Seymour Jr
Internet Community Builder
Charlie Seymour Jr is a Husband and Dad; an entrepreneur and marketer...
Charlie Seymour Jr is a Husband and Dad; an entrepreneur and marketer with a heart for families, children, the arts, and how they tie together; and someone who creates Internet Communities based around family topics. He tells their stories through images, words, and sound to captivate other people, especially through Social Marketing, Web 2.0 strategies.
Charlie is an entrepreneurial evangelist and success-marketing coach helping individuals and companies (up to $37MM) explode their success through online and direct-response marketing. He specializes in blogging, podcasting, photography, video, and Facebook applications. (Visit his blog at http://bit.ly/24eYTO to learn more about his activities.)
He also specializes in photography of people at some of their most joyous times: weddings, bat and bar mitzvahs, family portraits, and theater, and he creates a lot of video productions to help get his message across on the Internet.
Charlie is featured in the new book, "Dream Inc," about 32 Philadelphia-area entrepreneurs and their million dollar secrets to success, and "The Ultimate Success Secret" by Dan Kennedy and Michael M. Capuzzi.
His personal portal site is http://CharlesSeymourJr.com.
Charlie leads a charmed life and follows his passion for families and the arts in what he does for a living. A fourth generation theater producer and director in the Philadelphia area, his artistic abilities and genuine interest in live theater are complemented by his business strengths, particularly his expertise in business/arts marketing.
He founded Torn Ticket at Tufts University where he earned his BA in Economics and Music and was a founder of Wharton and the Arts at the University of Pennsylvania where he earned his Wharton MBA.
Artistically his life has also been rich. He wrote "The Hunchback of Notre Dame" (with NY composer Neil Radisch) as a major musical and helped lead McCarter Theatre in Princeton and The Loretto-Hilton Repertory Theater in St. Louis, was the Producing Director and a Board Member for The Players Club of Swarthmore, directed major musicals like "Sweeney Todd," "West Side Story," "Evita," "Follies," "A Chorus Line," "Rags," "Blood Brothers," and "Cabaret," traveled to Ocala, FL, Memphis, TN, and Kalamazoo, MI to direct theater, he was also the Artistic Director for Mask and Wig (the all-male troupe of the University of Pennsylvania) for three years.
He also helped produce his younger daughter's first music CD, Liz Seymour - That Thing Called Love (at LizSeymour.com).
Charlie has learned many lessons as the father of two grown daughters, as a member of a blended family, as a director of youth in theater and in church productions, as a photographer of youth and families, as a church leader, and as someone who writes about family topics.
He resides outside of Philadelphia, PA USA with his wife, Pam, two cats, a dog, 7 computers, and 8 cameras.
Q: I am very good about remembering birthdays, calling to keep in touch and sending gifts. As a step-grandmother (my spouse passed away) how do I encourage my step-daughter to simply let me know gifts were received?
How can I ensure my grandchildren are learning manners and gratitude if it isn't being displayed by their parents?
Mostly, I feel badly about this and don't know what to say if there is anything appropriate that I can say.
How can you be sure manners are being displayed? I suggest two things: 1) Put a note in with the gift, tell your grandchild how much you love him or her, and request that he/she write you (email? text?) that you received that gift. 2) WHEN you mail the gift, send an email to the parents telling them it's on the way and ask for a note back that the gift was received ok (and did Johnnie or Sally like it? After all, you don't want to keep sending gifts they don't like and would appreciate some feedback so you can please your grandchild. Of course if none of that works, send a check - at least you'll see when it clears and money is always appreciated by a child. You won't assure that the child is learning manners, but at least you'll know the gift successfully arrived. Hope that helps. | (view all answers to this question)
Q: Hello – I’m not sure if you can help provide advice or not to the below situation but if not, could you please suggest other resources where I might ask the same questions to gain some insight and advice? I’ve tried to make it brief but not sure it’s brief enough :)
I have just returned from a 9 day trip while my husband and 2 kids (12 and 15) stayed at home. Last night my daughter (15) and I were discussing a couple of recent instances where a couple of her close friends had gotten drunk (a very new situation) and she was giving me the details of the events and how she felt about the situation. Up to this point my daughter seems to have had a strong resolve not to drink and hasn’t particularly had a problem with saying no thanks when offered drugs or alcohol (her words, not mine). I asked her how that’s been working for her and told her I was proud of her for being so strong in her decisions. I then followed up and said to her “and you’ve never gotten drunk yourself?” Thankfully for me, my daughter still shares a lot of information with me and she proceeded to tell me the following story:
• While I was gone on my trip, she and a friend snuck out of the house (while my husband peacefully snored away) at 1am and went to another friends house who was having somewhat of a party (parents were home but they have a separate dwelling where the kids hang out).
• Kids at the party were drinking and she thought she’d try it for a change
• She had 2 beers (I’m guessing more than that or something else based on the remaining details) and proceeded to get absolutely smashed. She said she couldn’t walk, they video taped her doing super stupid stuff, she alternated between laying on the ground and falling over drunk, etc. Not a fun time she said.
• She said she needed to go home and just be at her own house and did manage to get home sometime around 6am (yes, my husband was still sleeping and didn’t notice). I asked her how she got home because my biggest message to my kids has always been NEVER get in the car with someone has been drinking. She said the person that drove her home was sober.
• Once home, she said she proceeded to throw up for hours and said she’s never felt so terrible in her entire life. One of her friends was with her who had had a similar experience not long ago and stood by and took care of her for the day. She said it was the most horrible experience of her life and she vowed then and there to never drink again (I wish!!).
• We talked about how some people could handle alcohol and some couldn’t and she was likely going to be one of those who couldn’t (she’s very petite) and that the effects on her would likely to result in the same type of experience. I told her that if she made the choice to do it again, she should just know that she’s probably one of those people who fall more in the category of making an ass of one’s self when drunk vs. being a fun/funny drunk and she needs to know that moving forward. Basically, if you want to drink, know you’re going to get stupid and likely do very stupid things so be prepared for the consequences of that. Net/net, it’s best that she not try drinking again.
• I told her I was proud of her for telling me the truth and thanked her for telling me.
So, long story short, here’s my questions that I would like to get some parental advice and insight on:
• Should we instill some punishment because of these events (sneaking out, getting drunk) even though she was honest with me and told me the story? My inclination is to say no because I don’t want to punish honesty, but at the same time, I don’t know that just talking about these events is the right course of action.
• If punishment is the right thing to do, what do you suggest?
• Should I contact the parents of the party (I know they were home, my daughter is good friends with the girl but I’m not overly close to the parents) to let them know what happened? I know my daughter would vehemently revolt at that decision because there would be repercussions and it would likely result in her not telling me things moving forward. Is the risk worth it?
• How should I handle the situation with my husband? He knows nothing about the incident and my daughter said I could tell him the story but not tell him when it happened (she liked having more freedom when I was gone – I’m the one that’s always talking to the parents, checking in, etc – though we see where that freedom got her). I do want to share the situation with him and though I’m mad this happened while I was gone, it could have easily happened while I was here.
Any advice or insight you could provide would be fabulous as I’m sure there are millions of other parents out there needing the same advice. Thanks so much for your time.
What a story - and you told it VERY well. 1st: Congrats for having such a wonderful relationship with your daughter. I'm sure you're thrilled that she can express things to you. Many other parents will be quite envious! 2nd: Let's see if my own story can help: I always told my kids that they do NOT have to obey the law. That's right... they do NOT! BUT... they must be ready to pay the consequences. So go ahead and speed, YOU will pay the ticket. Ever get in a car with a driver who has been drinking - lose your own driving privileges for a year. Don't wear a seatbelt when in a car (either as a passenger or driver), lose driving for a year. (I'll skip all the other examples). How does this affect you and your daughter? Perhaps you tell her WHAT your punishment is (grounded? No TV? What you feel it should be) but in THIS case, you've decided that her punishment was the way she felt the next day. I certainly would keep reminding her how she felt (making the impression on her unconscious mind that drinking leads her to be sick). 3rd: telling your husband? ABSOLUTELY. Now is not the time to keep things between partners. Hey, it's not his fault that he's a sound sleeper - so am I usually. And he wasn't the one to sneak out - he did nothing wrong. But the conversation needs to be in a way that shows that you have already handled the punishment and you need his support with the way you did it. 4th: Tell the other parents? YES. Handle it well. Go see the parent you feel closest to. Tell her/him that getting your daughter angry at you if all of this news gets out that YOU told them will be a sorry situation that must be avoided. But, at least in MY part of the country, parents allowing under-age drinking have gone to JAIL. It is a crime. And you're telling them to protect THEM and protect all the children who aren't mature enough to hold their alcohol... especially when driving. I hope this helps. Thanks so much for sharing it - my best wishes are with you as you travel the journey that continues with this. | (view all answers to this question)
Q: With the summer coming I love to expose my children to new things but it is so hard to get them to try things. I want them to experience reading, activity, music and new places. But everything is met with a struggle. It's tough to keep trying. Any ideas?
Perhaps you can make it a game... so many points a week for experiencing new things. And at the end of the month, special rewards are giving for the number of points. I'd show them the points for each activity and the chart of points that add up to the bonuses so they can see what they are aiming at. For instance, "Read a chapter in a book" is 3 points, "visit a new place with Mom or Dad for an hour" is 5 points, "doing some good, physical activity outside for 15 mins" is 2 points, etc. And the "rewards" at the end of the month are "movie of your choice - 20 points, Mom makes your bed one day - 18 points, dessert of your choice (select a few things that you already approve like a trip to Dairy Queen, Ritas, etc) - 23 points" and so forth. Often when it's fun, they play along. Oh... and be sure to POST the game where everyone can see it and have them get your permission to fill in their score after each event. Get them to physically pick up the marker - that participation is important to getting the results you want. Hope this helps! | (view all answers to this question)
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